“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.”
— Maxwell Maltz
You need self-esteem if you’re going to take the journey to a better self and a more extraordinary life. Luckily, anyone can develop confidence. Then all it takes is a little maintenance occasionally. You can do this and you will!
Imagine feeling fantastic every day. Being courageous instead of anxious and loving yourself even when you mess up.
No one can force you to dislike yourself. It’s your choice. But it sneaks into your mind slowly over time. So, you have the power to transform how you feel about yourself.
Now, it’s time to take back control of this life-changing ability.
It’s critical to understand how to build and maintain self-esteem.
Here’s how to improve your self-esteem today. Use these tips for a lifetime, and you’ll be set!
1. Gain self-esteem by doing something you’ve been avoiding
“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.”
– Thomas Jefferson
Finish something that you’ve been putting off for a long time. Once you finish, you’ll feel a rush of energy and motivation to do more things! Plus, that task is one less thing for you to worry about in life.
2. Build self-esteem by getting out of your comfort zone
You have to push yourself in order to grow. So, get out of your comfort zone, even if it’s just a little bit. The more you do this, the more you’ll learn and even start to impress yourself! Prove yourself wrong because you did what you told yourself you couldn’t; this strengthens your self-esteem.
Also, stop taking life so seriously, have fun! Besides, from birth until death, you are the only one who’ll always be there. So, you might as well be friends and have a good time!
3. Choose self-esteem boosting thoughts
“To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.”
— Denis Waitley
If you stop thinking negative thoughts, then you’ll have plenty of space for positivity! So, flip the script and start remembering your accomplishments and your abilities. Think about these things throughout each day. However, don’t believe that you’re superior to others; we’re all equal, just different.
4. Have morals and live by them
“Our self-respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart, we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters.”
— Dan Coppersmith
Have you taken the time to find out if your beliefs are right or wrong? If you think something is “bad,” but you still do it, your subconscious notices. Moreover, you’ll lose respect for yourself, and this ultimately lowers your self-esteem.
On the other hand, if you live by your morals, you’ll build more confidence.
For example, if you believe you shouldn’t hurt anyone, but you gossip or make fun of people, it’ll impact how you think of yourself. You’re damaging other’s well-being, and it’s hurting you as well. So, strive to live by your virtues and be a joy to others instead of a pain.
5. Be solution-focused
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
Complaining and whining about problems never solves anything. When you come across an issue, immediately ask yourself what you can do to solve it. If that solution doesn’t work, ask yourself again. Eventually, you’ll find the answer.
6. Forgive and let go of all grudges
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
— Eleanor Roosevelt
You’ll like yourself more when you aren’t filled with anger from old grudges. Forgive the person in your mind and let go of any resentments. Anger doesn’t do any good. Besides, you’re hurting yourself, not them.
If that person continues to bring you down, then don’t be around them anymore. They’re hurting your self-esteem. Besides, you don’t want them to rub off on you! So, leave them. Even if you have to find a new job, don’t let people mistreat you.
7. Accept and approve of yourself
“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
— Louise L. Hay
Self-acceptance helps build self-esteem. But, you can’t have self-acceptance and talk down to yourself at the same time. So, choose to approve and love every part of who you are, even your flaws!
- “I’m going to be myself and enjoy it whether people like it or not.”
- “I love who I am, even my flaws.”
- “I have nothing to prove to others because I accept myself unconditionally.”
8. Don’t believe everything you think
“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”
— Mark Twain
It’s essential to become aware of disapproving self-talk. The subconscious can brew up a concoction of negative opinions of ourselves and put them on repeat. It learns from repetition so you can retrain your brain the same way. Only this time put positive, encouraging thoughts on repeat.
Otherwise, if you allow disapproving thoughts to run in the background, you’ll start to identify with them.
Then they become self-fulfilling prophecies. So, if you don’t want to become the names you call yourself, then stop negative thoughts in their tracks. Make yourself think 3 good things about yourself for every negative thought.
9. Connect to your inner awesomeness
“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”
— Robert Morley
Can you remember a time when you felt truly amazing? A time when you were full of confidence? What were you doing? If you can’t think of a time like that, then ask a friend. Sometimes others can see our brilliance while we are blind to it.
In short, you’re an incredible person. No flaw or mistake can diminish your value. They’re just symptoms of being human. Besides, you’re the only “you” we have in this world! So, don’t hold yourself back anymore, your potential is waiting, and you’ve got this!
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