When you accept who you are, you embrace everything about yourself, flaws and all.
Imagine if you were no longer worried about your imperfections and instead, you approved of both your good and “bad” qualities.
You’re not alone; we all have aspects about ourselves that we don’t like. But if your mind is consumed with your perceived flaws, you’ll spoil an otherwise happy life. Over time it can even harm your health.
Accept who you are for better health
A lack of self-acceptance can eventually take a toll on your body. In fact, repressed negative emotions are the cause of many health problems. For example, you can develop high blood pressure, migraines, or ulcers, to name a few.
On the other hand, self-acceptance can heal illnesses.
Then move on to new endeavors and save a ton of time and torture.
How to release all the things you can’t control and learn to accept yourself unconditionally:
1. Change your perspective on what you don’t accept
“Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.”
— Roy T. Bennett
Turn the tables on how you think about your flaws. Your loved ones already love your imperfections, so it’s possible you can too! Especially cherish the features you can’t change because you might as well enjoy them!
Regret nothing! There’s no reason to beat yourself up over these things; you’ll ruin your life if you reject reality.
It’s best to accept your appearance, past, or anything else you can’t change and redirect your attention to something you can control now. Plus, that’ll boost your confidence by giving you something to work towards, and then you’ll feel proud when you make it happen.
Life has a different path for you, and it’s up to you to stop hitting the same wall. It’s time to change your course.
If you have a big nose, love it, and don’t worry about what others think. Or maybe you’re really short or tall? You can’t change it, so embrace it!
Accept it and realize it’s okay; everyone has qualities that they think are flaws! You’re still an amazing person! Just because something didn’t work out doesn’t mean nothing will! Afterward, you can try to improve what you can change.
2. Don’t bully yourself
“Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness.”
— Deborah Day
Punishing yourself for not being perfect won’t help anything.
Instead, try to have more self-compassion and treat yourself with respect. Besides, you can’t have self-acceptance and negative self-talk at the same time.
So, be easy on yourself when life doesn’t go as planned.
People love you even more because you have unique attributes. If you were your own parent, you’d consider even your flaws to be adorable!
When you think negative thoughts, they get ingrained in your mind. You’ve got to stop the vicious cycle. You’ll need to be extra watchful over all your thoughts so you can allow the encouraging messages and reject the bad.
Many of those thoughts may not even be true, like the things other people have told you. You aren’t the same person you were back then, so the comments don’t apply anymore.
Tell yourself things like:
- “I deserve happiness and love.”
- “I love my quirks because they make me distinctive.”
- “I’m going to be myself whether people like it or not.”
- “I love who I am even if I mess up.”
- “I have nothing to prove to others because I accept myself unconditionally.”
3. Forgive yourself and others
“Of course, there is no formula for success except perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.”
— Arthur Rubinstein
In order to truly accept who you are, you have to forgive yourself and others for causing you pain. If someone in the past made you feel ashamed of your unique qualities, you must forgive them so you can let it go.
I’m not saying that you have to condone their behavior but forgive them for it. Even if that person isn’t sorry, this will allow you to let go of your pain.
Hurt people will hurt others, mentally or physically. Usually, they have traumas in their past and haven’t done the work to overcome them.
Choose to forgive them because they weren’t mentally healthy. If you refuse to forgive them, you will suffer. So, forgiveness is your ticket to freedom. Holding on to resentments doesn’t hurt the other person; it hurts you.
4. Accept other people
Do yourself a huge favor and accept other people. Judging others makes you do the same to yourself. Don’t allow other’s lives and beliefs to upset you because it causes you unnecessary pain and anger.
People will be different than you, and that’s totally okay. We are all different, and that’s what makes life awesome.
You might disapprove of what others do, but you don’t have to join in with them. Unless you love wasting your time and mental space, accept them and let them go.
5. Accept where you are but plan where you’re going
“Accept what is, let go of what was, have faith in what will be.”
— Sonia Ricotti
Choose to embrace your current circumstances. Think of all the things you have the ability to do.
Besides, over time most goals change, so allow your’s to evolve along with you. Gift yourself with a new mission!
Don’t tell yourself you’ll be happy when something happens in the future because the future is unknown.
You don’t want to base your happiness on something that isn’t guaranteed. So, feel the joy in what you have now and strive to improve what you can.
6. Write a love letter to yourself
“Until we accept and approve of ourselves, no amount of approval from others will keep us permanently secure.”
— Joyce Meyer
If you’ve had negative thoughts about your imperfection for years, you need to replace them with encouraging words. Write a love letter to yourself to lessen the impact of your flaws, so it’s easier to accept them.
So, write about your favorite attributes, accomplishments, and talents. Wait till you see how much better you feel afterward!
Feel grateful for everything that makes you unique but don’t go overboard. Remember, you aren’t superior to others, just as no one else is better than you. We’re all equal in value but with different abilities and gifts.
Accepting yourself doesn’t mean you stop trying to improve
Even though you accept yourself, that doesn’t mean you don’t need to improve anymore. You still have quirks; however, now you are okay with them. Love yourself enough to become better because you deserve to live your best life.
You want the best life possible, and this requires making improvements.
Acceptance will give you the motivation to improve because you won’t be thinking thoughts like “I’ll never make it.”
Instead, you’ll encourage yourself. For instance, you could say, “I forgive whoever caused me to believe I wasn’t worthy, whether it was myself or others.”
After you accept who you are, it’s natural that your confidence will rise. Your self-doubt disappears because you accept where you’re at, but you choose to evolve.
In the end, when you accept yourself and your unchangeable aspects, you’ll boost your satisfaction in life. So, decide to embrace every part of who you are and choose to improve what you can.
The more things you can accept, the happier you will be!
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